Twin souls: general reflections

 Hari Aum.

I hope all readers are keeping well and that your sadhana is going smoothly. I have been struck down by a seasonal illness and am taking some time out of my usual routine to recuperate. I have been rushing about in recent weeks busy with material and spiritual stuff and so am taking this illness as an opportunity to reflect and write.

Before I go any further, I just want to say that my purascharana practice is ongoing but at a snail's pace. Due to a combination of reasons, I have cut down my japa practice from 7 malas down to 5. I hope to pick this up again in the coming weeks. In the meantime, I have introduced other elements of spiritual practice including Tulsi and Shaligram puja which I will aim to write about in another post sometime.

Today I would like to share some general reflections on the twin soul connection-- which as I have previously mentioned, is a type of spiritual path designed by the universe.

Some general reflections on the twin soul connection:

1. Acceptance:

I feel that, at some stage, twin souls need to just accept that this is something that the universe has decided they need to go through for spiritual growth. 

One needs to stop fighting with oneself, the universe and one's twin regarding the connection.

It is common to resent the connection because it is not easy to deal with. However, one needs to acknowledge that this is very likely to be equally difficult for one's twin soul to handle (btw I'm not a big fan of the term 'twin soul' but there does not seem to be any other way of easily describing this connection aside from this commonly used one).

Therefore there is no sense in resenting the twin soul. Equally there is no point in resenting the universe for creating this connection. The universe does not do anything without a good reason. One has to therefore accept this and work with it.

2. Karma:

Some people call this twin soul connection a karmic sh*t show. It is not a nice description but it seems to be generally true!

There is a lot of karma to be experienced on this journey. It is said that we have pay off all our karmic debts to attain God realisation. The twin soul path is usually loaded with karma to enable us to pay off our karmic debts very speedily and move Godward.

Right from childhood, there are difficult karmas to experience and this often continues into adult life. One needs to accept this and deal with it by growing stronger. When approached the right way, these difficult karmas become a way to gain inner strength. One will either sink or swim, and one has to learn how to swim and survive the difficult karma.

3. Ethics:

This forms the heart and soul of spiritual life. This is essential for twin souls to practice as much as possible. This enables us to experience the protection and grace of God in handling all aspects of life, including the ability to gain whatever it is that God wants us to gain via the twin soul journey.

4. Balancing the 3D and the 5D:

Most twin souls have their own individual lives in the material world. Their paths rarely cross in the physical, gross material world or '3D' world as some like to call it.

On the other hand, in the world of the mind, in the realm of the astral body, or sukshma sharira in yogic language, twin souls are intimately connected. There is a constant flow of energy between their chakras (in fact, they are said to share a chakra system). This leads to an awareness of the other (when they are not distracted by some outer activity)-- it is almost the 'default setting'.

Most twin souls do not know of this connection when they initially encounter each other and live their independent lives in the '3D'. The activation of this '5D' astral connection by the universe at various points in time can feel confusing and frightening. It becomes less alarming once they have done some research into the subject and begin to understand what is happening (it helps to know that others also are going through a similar spiritual journey).

The question then arises-- how is one to balance the 3D life with this 5D reality?

I feel this varies for twin souls but in general, it involves negotiation. If one has a spouse and children, there is a clear duty towards them and one needs to fulfil these duties to the best of one's ability. This is part of our spiritual dharma or duty. Without this, there can be no spiritual progress.

But over time, I feel that one will need to find a way of having some form of contact with one's twin soul (in the 3D, not only the 5D). 

Over time, I feel one will need to explain to one's spouse that this connection exists and it is not a 'normal' one. It has been created by the universe and it is nobody's fault that it exists. In fact, there is likely a spiritual purpose behind it.

It is fairly common for spouses of twin souls to resent this connection but over time, they too will need to come to terms with this; this is their karma. 

(My husband for example, has instructed me to avoid raising this topic with him as far as possible as he struggles to understand what I am going through-- and I respect this. I have, however, informed him that it is simply a fact that this connection exists and it has been created by the universe-- he seems to accept this on some level.)  

And it is also usual for twin souls to not be overly thrilled at the existence of their twin's spouse. :) But the existence of spouses/partners on this path (one's own and also those of one's twin soul) is a part of the karma that everyone (including the twin souls, their spouses and all others connected with them) need to go through. Therefore there is no point being resentful about this either.

Over time, I feel the universe will help twin souls to work out their karmas and the ultimate outcome of all these connections will be in accordance with the will of God (as long as one adheres firmly to ethics and performs regular sadhana to attain the spiritual goal of life).

5. Overcoming the ego (the key challenge of spiritual life):

One needs to try and accept the experiences of life with as much grace as possible. And ultimately, actively engage with the universe in a spirit of service. The twin soul journey shows this to us very clearly.

It is not easy to meditate or do spiritual practices while running away from the twin soul bond under the influence of the ego. 

The more one runs, the more the universe goes out of its way to show one the connection in a variety of ways (ranging from dreams to various signs-- for example, if I've gone into running mode with regard to this connection, the universe soon provides me with a patient with the name of my twin soul at work in my clinic-- this has happened on a few occasions. I used to find this quite weird but now understand that there is a pattern and it is the universe up to its usual ways again!)

And, if I feel hostile or resentful towards this connection (I try not to be this way but may slip up on occasion when my ego gets the better of me), I nearly always end up having a migraine and have therefore learned that it is best not to go down this road!

In a nutshell, the twin soul spiritual path involves shining a very bright torch upon the ego (both one's own and one's twin’s and all others involved) and frankly, setting it alight! 

If one seeks peace and sanity, the ego really has to be reduced as far as possible (complete vanishing of the ego only occurs when one attains Self/God realisation). The more one gives in to the ego, the more pain one invites into one's life. The more one transcends the ego, and accepts whatever the universe is doing, the more peaceful one feels.

And, as working upon one's ego, is regarded as the essence of spiritual life, it is no wonder that the twin soul journey is regarded an intense spiritual path that can rapidly lead one Godward if one approaches it with the right attitude (this is not easy but there is no other way if one wishes to survive it).

On that note, I would like to wave at my twin soul (on the assumption that they are here, which I feel is correct)! Hope you are well. :)

And I would also like to wave at any other twin souls on a similar journey! Hope you are all doing ok. :)

Om Namo Narayanaya.

Hari Aum Tat Sat.