Twin soul love

 Hari Aum.

In the past few years, I have had the opportunity to speak to people on a twin soul journey and one of the topics we sometimes discuss (aside from our frustrations and grievances related to the complexities of this spiritual path!) is the way we feel about our counterparts, about the love we have for them (it is good to sometimes talk about the positive aspects of this journey along with the many challenges!). 

Today, I would like to write something about this twin soul love. This is based upon my discussions with other twin souls (mainly the female aspect) and my own experience. (A close female friend of mine from childhood days in particular, interestingly appears to be on a similar journey. We are fortunate to able to speak with each other relatively freely on this topic, and having each other's support has been an invaluable blessing.)

The love that the female twins feel for their counterparts really cannot be described. It is difficult if not impossible to write about this but nonetheless, I will try. The reason is that it is beautiful and I feel I have a duty to at least attempt to give some expression to this reality that we as a group feel. It is relatively easy to write about our grievances, complaints, frustrations and irritation at our counterparts. That part comes quite naturally on this path that is designed to be difficult!

But, underneath all the frustrations and annoyances and indeed the rejections, is a quite indescribable, irrational and unexplainable type of love. Many of us wonder as to its origin, why it exists, how it came about, and its basis. But it defies our intellects.

You see, the strange thing is, it has no reason. There is no reason for this love (it is not particularly based upon any physical, mental, social or other characteristic; it almost seems to be some sort of soul force).

It just exists. Most of us have had no previous experience of this before, and so our minds reel at the behaviour of our hearts when we first experience this. We feel alarmed at ourselves, at the depth of feeling that we are capable of. 

We never knew, we say to ourselves, that we could feel this way. (In fact, many of us berate ourselves for experiencing this as it is quite disturbing initially-- but the fact is, no matter how much we tell ourselves off for feeling this way, the love remains. This is simply a reality).

It is quite beyond the typical romantic relationship love that we and other human beings seem to experience (there can be a romantic aspect, but it is so much vaster than that). We would describe it as intense, unfathomable, overpowering, all-consuming and unconditional. 

The last word, 'unconditional' has particular significance. We realise over time (usually a long time, as this tends to be a long journey spanning many years and some say lifetimes!) that there is nothing really that diminishes this feeling-- if anything it grows as time passes. 

We wonder at it, but no matter how much we rack our brains and attempt to use this to analyse our hearts, we are unable to rationally or scientifically explain this experience. The brain returns defeated by the heart every time (this is certainly not to say that we have abandoned our intellects—far from it. It is only that the intellect recognises that there is a higher power). It is really quite extraordinary.

And then, we begin to feel that the universe is teaching us something valuable-- perhaps it is that much coveted state of unconditional love. As spiritual seekers and devotees, many of us read about this in the scriptures, we meditate upon divinities that embody this, we intellectually attempt to grasp this as a goal of spiritual life. 

But when we begin to experience even a drop of this, we are utterly stunned. What an extraordinary experience, we feel. When our higher selves tap into this type of love, our egoistic lower minds (which exist along with the higher self as with all spiritual seekers) are completely astounded.

It does not feel like something we have created ourselves in our own minds and hearts. It feels almost as though the universe is flowing through us. The love that flows within us for our counterparts makes us feel quite expansive, quite universal, quite divine, as if this love could expand and include everyone and everything in it. 

When we feel this love, we feel that we are touching the very hem of the Divine. We begin to get a glimpse of the love that the yogis and Gurus talk about-- love that loves for the sake of love, that simply has no reason, that does not diminish with time or space (these are simply words that cannot convey the full experience at all). And which does not fade but only seems to increase with time. 

Our twin soul counterpart becomes a sort of canvas as it were; a canvas in our minds and hearts, given to us by the Divine, onto which we begin to learn to paint the colours of this divine, universal love. 

We become almost like artists, learning the art of unconditional love under the tutelage of the Divine (and many of us do actually feel inspired to embrace the artistic aspect of life, be it music, dance, painting or other creative pursuits). 

This is a very challenging journey to put it mildly. But to be able to experience this sort of love feels like a privilege (though it has to be said, there are times when this love can feel much more like a curse than a blessing-- that too is a key part of the twin soul path). Nonetheless, over time, we realise that we are being taught something of serious spiritual significance by the universe-- and with this, comes a certain understanding and gratitude towards the Divine. 

Despite all the challenges of this path, over time, one begins to see that perhaps there was a purpose behind it after all. That purpose was to bring to life the unconditional love within the scriptures, that the divine embodies, that we ourselves-- that all human beings (not only twin souls)-- embody. For all of us, human beings, are of the nature of this love-- this is the view of our Gurus and scriptures. 

For many twin souls, this unconditional love emerges most powerfully when we are quiet, when we are at peace, when the work of the day has been done, perhaps when all the world is sleeping and we are awake. 

When our mind and heart space is not distracted by the worldly chatter of those around us, and our senses are not drawn outwards to perform our daily duties, when our ego minds are not active, in quiet periods when we are alone, when our higher aspect is able to express itself fully without any impediment-- this is perhaps the time when we are able feel this love most powerfully.

Speaking of unconditional love, we have just celebrated the birthday of Lord Krishna, who is the embodiment of this divine quality, One who is both lovable and infuriating in equal measure (oddly, many twin souls would describe their counterparts in similar terms!). 

I dedicate this post to Him as He is the origin of love in all human beings. I hope all readers have had a beautiful day celebrating this auspicious occasion. May Lord Krishna bless us all with unconditional love and may He continue to teach us more about the mysteries of this extraordinary experience.

Om Krishnam Vande Jagadgurum.

Om Namo Narayanaya.

Hari Aum Tat Sat.

P.S. As with many other things of the world of the spirit, I have gradually realised that this experience is truly best expressed in silence in the material realm (and kept well away from the gross physical realm of body and speech, which in any case, cannot do it any real justice). 

This is likely one of the key reasons why many twin souls naturally maintain silence with their counterparts and I would entirely agree that this is a wise choice. 

I have realised that this love, which has a subtle, divine and ethereal nature, can and should only be fully expressed before the One who created it in the first place, namely the Divine, as S/He alone can truly understand and appreciate it. This expression then becomes a golden key to enter the realm of the Divine, thus enabling this love to fulfil its purpose.

Hari Aum Tat Sat.

Reflections on male twin souls

 Hari Aum.

On this spiritual journey, female twin souls find themselves asking a number of questions about their so-called counterparts and about their own apparent connection with them. 

Some of these questions that we ask ourselves and each other about the male twins include:

- First and foremost, do they feel a connection with us at all? If yes, why do they not tell us? If they do not, then are we crazy to feel a connection with them? But then, the majority of us are perfectly sane women in all other aspects of our lives (as sane as anyone else on this planet anyway!)- why then are we unable to cure ourselves of this connection?

-Even when the male twins hint they feel a connection (in their own indirect ways), why do they never seem to take steps to communicate this clearly and directly? 

Almost every twin soul, male and female, is in a karmic relationship with someone else-- this cannot be a permanent excuse to avoid being honest with one's twin about a connection that one feels day-in-day-out. That is simply nonsense. 

(One need not share every detail of this bond with one's karmic partner though-- here, some discretion is generally advised. Karmic connections may or may not continue irrespective of the twin soul bond. Whatever occurs with them, is the will of God. Generally twin souls do not interfere with each other's karmic connections)

-How do the male twins view this connection? Do they talk or communicate with other twin souls to gain support (as we female twins often do)? How do they handle this connection? What is their method? It is not easy to live with it so we naturally wonder!

-Do the male twins have a spiritual life? Are they ever going to tell us about it as we seem to share a spiritual bond? 

-Do they blame/resent/hate us for this bond? It is not our fault that this was created by the universe. Are they going to punish us by being silent and uncommunicative until we or they leave this planet?

-Do the male twins value truth, living a life that at least acknowledges their own truth? Truth is God, and as the Sanskrit saying goes, 'Satyam eva jayate', i.e. Truth alone triumphs. One cannot deny the truth forever and expect to succeed in any aspect of life, whether material or spiritual. Truth is the very foundation of life. 

In general, most female twins cannot understand their male counterparts. And the male twins probably cannot understand us either. And that is a pity, because this is bond is a constant experience. It feels like we have no choice but to learn to understand each other—this would be the only sensible way forward.

And, on that note, all of the questions that I have mentioned above apply to my own twin. If you are here, then let me say that you are a complete mystery to me. A total stranger. I feel I know you but at the same time, I do not know you at all (on the material plane anyway). And it seems that I never will-- as you do not want to communicate very much at all. Or acknowledge anything. You seem to prefer to live your own life entirely on the material level. I just cannot understand this. How can you live like this?!

Is it not possible for you to find a way of integrating this connection into your material life? As I am trying to do. 

Is it not reasonable to try and work out what the universe expects from us in creating this bond? Do you not wish to even discuss it? Are you afraid of something? And if yes, what is it? We cannot blame each other for anything that we have been through on this journey-- most twin souls go through the same.

I just cannot understand you at all! I really hope and pray you find it in yourself to acknowledge this connection (in words/ in person) if you feel it. By the way, I would be willing to reach out to you again (if you ever want to talk, that is!). 

Om Namo Narayanaya.

Hari Aum Tat Sat.

P.S. What is the meaning of your social media presence? It feels like we are online at similar times. Does this mean you do or do not wish take the communication further? This is a very difficult spiritual journey, I must say!

Hari Aum Tat Sat.

Twin souls: the positive side

 Hari Aum.

I wasn't really planning to write another post on twin souls so soon after the last one but somehow feel drawn to based on some recent reflections.

By the way, I want to state that the twin soul journey is a valid spiritual path that the universe has created. It is painful and difficult, and also not easy to understand (let alone explain to anyone else if one is not a twin soul). 

I therefore make no apologies whatsoever to anyone for writing about this subject on this blog. I also make no apologies at all for any of my own experiences (including my feelings for my own twin-- this is simply the way I have been designed by the universe and I accept it. I see this as my spiritual duty). 

People are welcome to have their own opinion of these (It is of course exceedingly foolish to make judgements about things one cannot understand and not a particularly good karma-- nonetheless, each to their own!). 

Frankly, it is the opinion of God and Guru that I am mainly concerned about-- and I am very relieved to find that They seem to be helping me on this journey that They themselves have put me on. 

Based on my own experiences of this journey, and the experiences of others walking a similar path, I feel that all twin souls on the planet deserve a gold medal. I do not make this statement lightly, nor is it intended as mere praise for anyone (!). I am simply stating a fact. 

This journey is very challenging to put it mildly and there is so much difficult karma that we each go through. This is the reason I feel a great deal of respect and affection for the entire twin soul collective (group of twin souls) and feel that we each deserve a gold medal for spiritual bravery. :)

As time has passed, my understanding of this journey has evolved (and this is still very much a work in progress-- as it is for most twin souls).

In the Gita, Krishna says that the path of goodness feels like poison in the beginning but later feels like nectar. Whereas the path of pleasure feels like nectar in the beginning but then feels like poison. Goodness and pleasure can go hand-in-hand in this world. They need not be mutually exclusive (though sometimes they may be), including on the twin soul journey.

A major part of the poison on the twin soul path is the separation pain from the counterpart. This is almost universally experienced by all twin souls. This pain can manifest as depression and anxiety, which can then lead to the use of substances (alcohol, recreational drugs and so on) as coping strategies.   

It is completely understandable to want to use these but unfortunately many patients tell me these temporarily numb the pain but in the long-term, only make their mood worse-- therefore, it is wise to avoid these as far as possible and seek professional help if required in quitting them. 

(As a doctor with an interest in mental health, I would like to add that depression, anxiety and other mental health issues are extremely common and can affect anyone in society, regardless of age, gender, social background etc (there should be no stigma attached to this; it is like any other health issue). There has been a significant increase in mental health issues generally all over the world in recent years since the pandemic and I see this regularly in my work at present). 

Many twin souls have to endure the poison of intense karma. This may include a variety of experiences, such as abuse from parents/family (may be physical/ psychological and so on), serious health issues (for themselves or in the family), financial hardship and a combination of significant karmic challenges and misfortune. And the cherry on top of this cake of difficult karma, is the twin soul connection-- this unexplained bond that, at times, can generate so much pain and grief (in proportion to the intensity of love that is felt).

This is the reason why I feel that every twin soul, and indeed every soul, on the planet who endures such karma and survives, deserves a medal and a big hug from the universe, from God. There is an intense karmic purgation on this path, which certainly helps spiritual growth but it is very challenging.

So, as twin souls when we look at our lives, we need to count the blessings-- on a material level, this may include our health, family and friends, home and work. On a spiritual level, our Gurus, spiritual friends and sadhana. And, last but certainly not least (in some ways, perhaps most important of all) the presence of the twin soul in our lives (strange though this may be!).

There are twin souls whose counterparts have died physically. They describe this as one of the most painful experiences that can be had. (Even though yogis accept it is the body that dies and not the soul, Gurus and disciples can very much shed tears when death occurs-- the reason for their tears may differ.)

Therefore, challenging though the twin soul journey may be, it is a major positive if one has been blessed both materially and spiritually in life, including with the physical presence of one's twin soul on the planet.

Many twin souls reach a stage where they are able to let go of the negativity related to this connection and accept that destiny played a major role in many life events (I feel many of us are getting to this stage). 

Ultimately, we will find our peace in being grateful for what the universe has given both us and our twin soul (both materially and spiritually) even when living separate lives. Because, sooner or later, we will find that our happiness is interconnected with the happiness of our counterpart. It is very difficult, if not impossible, to be truly happy if one's twin is not. 

And so, I will conclude this post by saying that I firmly feel that the universe ought to give every twin soul a gold medal for heroically facing the challenges of this spiritual journey! And that I hope and pray that we are all blessed by God with the highest happiness. I believe we all deserve this after years of walking this difficult path. 

Having experienced this peace and happiness, we will then be in a position to share this with those around us and perhaps be a force for good on the planet (as this apparantly, seems to be the reason we were created in the first place).

Om Namo Narayanaya

P.S.

Note to my twin soul (if they are here and reading this, cannot be sure but hope they are!)-- I hope you are well. And that you have not felt the need to use any substances to cope with this journey as many seem to. It is a fact that I love you a lot (for no particular reason-- it is simply the nature of this bond that I cannot do anything about) and therefore hope you are happy. 

I am increasingly at peace with the nature of this journey (despite the fact that it is very odd indeed) and I hope you are too. I am grateful that I do not need anything from you today (aside from maybe the truth, if you are able to share your experiences one day-- but even this is not essential) and also glad that I have the freedom to express my truth when I feel I need to. 

(Note: July 22- due to the rollercoaster nature of this journey, the levels of peace and acceptance can vary day-by-day! The truth is that I would like you to reach out to me to discuss this connection when you feel ready—it has been over 18 years since we met— so I hope you will be ready sooner rather than later). 

P.P.S

I am in the middle of my Bharatanatyam dance examinations and also due to travel soon so will write the next Ramayana post in the coming days or weeks when possible. I might write a dance- related post soon though (based on my studies) as I am constantly amazed to see that this is very much connected to spiritual life!

Hari Aum Tat Sat.

2025- a year of spiritual transformation

 Hari Aum.

I hope the first month of the New Year has gone well for all readers. According to various spiritual teachers and psychics, this year is supposedly particularly significant for humanity from a spiritual perspective. This is supposedly a year where there is great potential for inner growth and transformation, for connecting with our Higher Self or God within. It is a time when there can be a lot of releasing of past negative karmas and creating a new positive energies in our lives.

This is not an easy time for our planet. There are various wars still ongoing and also significant disturbances in the climate and environment. There is also an ongoing tug of war between spiritual and materialistic forces.

When each of us embraces a daily spiritual practice, whether it is a mantra or other practice from any tradition, we are uplifting not only ourselves but also helping our collective human consciousness-- this is the view of all the Gurus. We help each other, even without realising, when we perform a daily sadhana.

Some say that this year is a particularly significant for those on the spiritual path known as twin souls. They say that this period provides a unique opportunity for them to grow spiritually, and that this is also apparently a year of twin soul reunions (whatever form that may take).

There is only one factor that can lead to a healthy union for twin souls in my view-- and that is an adherence to dharma or the principles of goodness.

Since discovering the existence of twin souls, and my discovery that I am apparently walking this spiritual path, I note that there is a general gloom in the 'twin soul collective' (or larger group of twin souls-- I have connected with some of them in recent years). 

Many twin souls seem to have undergone a specific spiritual 'awakening' or experience since 2020/2021 and it has been challenging to put it mildly! There have been kundalini upheavals (many have described this as an insatiable physical lust for their twin-- quite unnerving as one may imagine, especially for spiritual seekers!), health issues, and the 24/7 mental link with the twin (when one cannot get them out of one's mind due to the astral connection). Most twin souls have not enjoyed this sudden awakening at all (and quite understandably!).

However, now in 2025, the dust seems to be settling a bit for most twin soul pairs. More and more of them are beginning to realise that they are on a spiritual path.

Some twin souls seem to view this dynamic as a simple relationship (though it is far from that) and attempt to play games with their counterpart -- this is a terrible idea. Many exhibit very foolish behaviours such as pretending to be uninterested, being interested in somebody else, denying that they feel the connection and so on. 

In addition, for some extraordinary reason known only to themselves, it appears that a number of men genuinely believe that openly discussing their feelings with women is a dreadful crime, and the best way forward is generally to pretend they do not have any (even if they do); this seems to apply particularly in the twin soul dynamic.

These men seem to suffer from the delusion that this sort of behaviour helps to draw women (even worse, some men actually attempt to make the women they are interested in jealous-- nothing could be more devastating for a connection, as most sane women will leave and find a partner who does not play mind games with them.)

If only men would realise that there is nothing more attractive than a man who knows his own mind and has the courage to speak it and express his own feelings. Frankly, there is no greater turn-off than men who play mind games in connections with others, particularly with women. 

In the twin soul dynamic too, unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of this nonsense. In this dynamic, more than any other, there is a need for complete frankness, honesty and courage. These are spiritual qualities, these show real character.

Whereas mind-games, sulking, blaming and being resentful have a very low energy and only indicate that the person in question is still in the grip of their own lower mind (and that the higher Self has sadly been forced to take a back seat-- that is unfortunate from a spiritual perspective). As we are all spiritual seekers (and not yet Self-Realised beings), we need to accept the existence of our lower minds, but we cannot allow it to control us as far as possible-- it may trouble us occasionally, but the higher mind needs to be given the upper hand the majority of the time.

Spirituality has to manifest in our day-to-day relationships with other human beings, including especially in the connection between men and women. It is no use saying 'Men are from Mars and women are from Venus' (!); we all inhabit the Earth and have to find a way to live peacefully on this planet! It may be a struggle at times, but we simply have to keep practicing! 

As for all souls, the life paths of twin souls are pre-determined by the Universe. The people they meet, the families they are born into, and those they create, their relationship and professional circles- all these are ordained by the Divine. There is a duty to perform, there is a job to do-- and that is spiritual growth. Where then is the need for twin souls to resent each other?

Based on my own experience, I accept that the twin soul path is not easy. It is not easy to get out of the grip of the lower mind and its emotions (and it is very common for twin souls to be resentful and angry at each other-- however this needs to be overcome to experience peace). This is true for all spiritual seekers, not only twin souls (though it can feel particularly painful and intense for twin souls as the separation from their counterpart is a very difficult experience). 

However, I remind myself that this twin soul path is a spiritual path, it is about something bigger than the individual souls involved. This path is about playing a small part, along with many other souls, in the spiritual transformation of our planet.

Many people today are embracing spirituality, many are tuning in to their own Higher Self. The twin soul path is also primarily about this. There is no doubt that there is a strong connection with the twin soul counterpart-- this includes a romantic aspect, and therefore, it is very likely that, in one lifetime or another, twin soul pairs will end up together in a relationship. 

As the Universe eventually ensures that they think about each other virtually all the time and that they feel an intense connection, one would think there is no other way to survive on the planet but to get together.

The most dangerous thing in my view for twin souls is to play foolish relationship games with each other (e.g. trying to make each other jealous, act disinterested etc). It should be obvious that this path will only lead to a healthy and positive outcome if the twin souls adhere firmly to the ethical path or dharma-- including the key principles of ahimsa (non-violence) and satya (truthfulness). 

There is nobody in a twin soul's life who can ever even remotely compare or compete with their counterpart-- this is a unique connection (as are all connections in our lives). There is simply no sense in denying this fundamental fact of life once this realisation dawns-- this takes time but does eventually occur for every twin soul.

This connection, which has a sacred, spiritual dimension, is to be respected and acknowledged (not treated like some casual relationship and be subjected to absurd games). One needs to ask the Universe what to do with this, how to live with it. As the Universe/the Divine has created this, the answers must come from there alone.

So, I will conclude this post by saying that I hope that this year will be one of great spiritual transformation for numerous souls as many have predicted. And, I hope this especially applies to all twin souls-- I feel that, after everything we have been through as a group (particularly in recent years), the Universe/Divine owes us some peace and positivity! 

Om Namo Narayanaya.

Hari Aum Tat Sat.

Twin soul energy- the higher and lower mind

 Hari Aum.

As I have mentioned previously on this blog, the twin soul journey is one type of spiritual path. Like others who have experienced this journey, I too realised at one stage that this is likely to be the reason for some of the events and experiences that have occurred in my life.

I want to write down, very bluntly, what I feel many twin souls go through on the journey, some of their thoughts and feelings, some of the reasons why they may feel the need to be in separation, and possible events that may lead to a harmonious reunion. (Note: as before, I will leave this post on here for as long or short a time that I feel is appropriate).

There are, as I have already explained in previous posts, two aspects to the mind: the higher and the lower. Both are a part of the Divine, and both play a part in our spiritual evolution. The lower mind seems to act as a source of inner challenges that the higher mind has to learn to deal with to grow stronger.

So, based upon what I have seen so far, let me share the typical thoughts and feelings that exist within twin souls (at least the feminine aspect) for their counterparts.

The higher mind's thoughts and feelings towards the twin soul counterpart:

A twin soul connection seems to exist here. It is a mystery and words cannot explain it; it just exists.

There must be a higher spiritual purpose to this connection. This needs to be figured out. 

We need to act in accordance with the will of the Divine.

Let us embrace the 5D connection, and let the 3D connection manifest in accordance with the will of God, whatever that may be. 

Everything is as it should be and things will turn out well in the end because we are accepting Divine will (and not attempting to live based upon our own little wills).

The overall feelings are of love, peace, wellbeing, trust in the Divine that the protection and grace of the Divine is with one at every step (and from this, is created great courage and inner strength to continue walking the spiritual path, including the twin soul path).

The lower mind's thoughts and feelings towards the twin soul counterpart:

There are mixed feelings: anger, confusion, fear, blame, guilt, regret, denial, disbelief, outrage, desire to run/chase, desire to cut off and 'be free'. 

There is a sense of victimhood ('Poor me', 'Why is this happening to me? Why is the universe doing this to me?'). There is a huge pain related to separation (a sort of 'separation sickness') that can manifest as health issues.

There is a general sense of the unfairness and strangeness of it all. 

A sense of confusion--- "What on Earth is this?!"

A sense of anger-- "I just wanted to live a normal life (including a normal married/monastic life). Why has the universe created this?"

A sense of betrayal- "If this connection exists, why could the universe not have permitted it to manifest in a 'normal relationship'; why did this weird astral connection alone have to exist!?

A sense of fear- "People will not understand me, they will judge/blame me." "This connection is so intense, it feels scary"

A sense of suspicion - "I don't trust him/her, and with very good reason based on what has already occurred!"

A sense of feeling unwell- "This connection makes me feel ill. It is bad for my health!"

A sense of despair- "Is my whole life going to be like this? When will this end? Please God, save me!"

So, in general, the higher mind (governed by the spiritual heart) in the twin soul feels love that is unconditional for their counterpart, and accepts this as a spiritual connection that has been created in accordance with Divine will. The higher mind is prepared to trust the Divine, and its own connection with the Divine, and 'go with the flow' i.e. accept the will of God whatever that may be.

In contrast, the lower mind (governed by the intellect and lower emotions) cycles through various highs and lows as it tries to make sense of a spiritual connection that cannot be explained intellectually (as this can only be understood by experience).

This is not an easy experience as one may imagine. It is very, very difficult to handle a connection like this. Based on my own experience, I have great sympathy and empathy with every twin soul on the planet. 

I can only say, for all of us, that there surely is a higher divine purpose to this connection. And time will reveal what that is for each one of us. In the meantime, we need to tune into the higher mind and its connection with the Divine. And also, accept the lower mind and handle it very gently (as this is understandably very challenging, from a 'normal' material perspective).

Once again, I would like to say that the energy of Mother Radha in particularly is helpful to soothe twin souls in separation. Reciting any mantra or name of Hers daily grants spiritual strength and some inner peace.

Om Sri Radhikayai Namah.

Om Sri Radha-Krishnabhyam Namah.

Om Namo Narayanaya.

Brahmacharya and Kundalini

 Hari Aum.

Om Namo Narayanaya.

Brahmacharya is a Sanskrit word that consists of a combination of two words-- Brahman and Acharya. It literally means the activity or conduct of the Supreme Being, Brahman. And a key feature of Brahman is the absence of any worldly desire. 

One who has fully conquered all material desire is called a true brahmachari. According to Sivananda, only one who is fully enlightened can be called a true brahmachari. The state of samadhi is attained when one become free of all worldly desires.

The Upanisads famously declare "Tat Tvam Asi" i.e. "You are That (Brahman)". And, "Aham Brahmasmi" i.e "I am Brahman (applies to each one of us)". 

The great Guru of ancient times, Adi Sankara, declared 

"Brahman satya, Jagat mitya. Jivo Brahmaiva Na Aparah."

Meaning: "Brahman alone is true/real, the material world is a (temporary) illusion/false. The individual soul (Jiva) is no different from Brahman (the Supreme Truth/Being)".

But despite these declarations, we still feel that we are jivas, individual souls. And we are full of worldly desires. We cannot be perfect brahmacharis right away even if we want to be-- because we are yet to recognise our oneness with Brahman/the Supreme.

To overcome our material desires, as spiritual seekers, our Gurus advise us to practice brahmacharya to the best of our ability based upon our individual life circumstances. This involves paying attention to our minds, the number of worldly desires that we have and managing these in a spiritually beneficial way.

Brahmacharya for a spiritual seeker is often associated with control of sexual energy in particular. Yogis regard the desire for sex as the most powerful desire in existence (as it is, after all, associated with creation). Handing this desire is one of the greatest challenges of spiritual life according to them (and many of us would probably have experienced this ourselves, particularly if we have been walking the spiritual path for a while).

The yogis tell us that sexual energy is a manifestation of the divine energy called the Kundalini (that rests in most people in the energy centre at the base of the spine). This is the energy of God. It is a sacred energy. Contrary to widely-held beliefs in both material and spiritual circles, there is nothing impure, wrong or dirty about sexual energy in itself. It is a pure energy. 

However, to be expressed as a pure energy, this Kundalini/sexual energy needs to be handled with the divine qualities of ahimsa/non-violence and satya/truthfulness. (When it is expressed with hatred, violence, exploitation and falsehood, unrighteous behaviours such as rape and cheating occur which lead us spiritually downwards.)

Not all spiritual seekers are obliged to express their sexual energy. Some choose to be lifelong celibates. And that is perfectly fine if that is their true calling in accordance with the will of God. This is one form of 'brahmacharya' meant for those living monastic lives in the yoga tradition.

However, the majority of spiritual seekers (both in ancient and modern times), do choose to express their sexual energy. Usually this is within the bounds of a long-term relationship or marriage. Many Gurus, including Sivananda, have stated that householders/people who are married/in relationships, are also expected to practice brahmacharya, or control the expression of sexual energy. Aside from practicing ahimsa and satya, they advise doing so by being moderate in sexual relations (the definition of 'moderate' depends upon on the couple) and learning to see the divine in our partners.

There are many people today professing that sex can be a spiritual path. I would politely disagree (and I would respectfully recommend avoiding anyone offering to teach sacred sex as there are a large number of false and dangerous 'Gurus' in the world today who are ever ready to exploit gullible spiritual seekers; we hear of this regularly in all spiritual circles). 

It is true that sexual energy is a pure energy. And sex therefore can indeed be a sacred, pure act. But the spirituality of sex cannot be taught to anyone. Anymore than spirituality in general can be taught to anyone.

Spirituality has to arise from within (you cannot learn to be spiritually hungry anymore than you can learn to be hungry for material food). Spiritual desire comes as a result of the grace of God. And when it manifests, it begins to encompass everything on its own, be it eating, sleeping, working, sex and pretty much all actions in daily life. 

To allow spirituality to arise naturally from within, the Gurus say that one of the best paths is the combination of mantra recitation and karma yoga (service of humanity). Prolonged regular practice of these two techniques enables us to become firmly established upon the spiritual path.

Some say that sexual thoughts gradually reduce as spirituality increases. Others say that the awakening and activity of the Kundalini energy within them, creates intense sexual thoughts (this is more so when the Kundalini is active in the lower chakras). So, the expression of sexual energy may increase or decrease at different times in spiritual life depending upon the will of God and our karma (for example, whether or not we are destined to have children etc). 

As the Kundalini can only be controlled safely by the grace of God, the Gurus tell us that it is essential for us to adhere to regular spiritual practice, to recite our chosen mantra or name of God every day.  Our ishta devata, or favourite form of the Divine, helps to direct our Kundalini energy gradually from the lower chakras/energy centres towards the higher ones (such as the heart and the forehead chakras).

Before I conclude, it would be remiss of me not to mention twin soul sexuality. What a tricky topic this can be. What is the technique to practice ahimsa, satya and brahmacharya when one has such a complex soul connection? 

Twin souls, as I've mentioned previously, have a strong energetic/astral connection. Their energy centres or chakras are interconnected, and as a result of this, they also have a strong sexual connection. This is felt when they are in each other's presence, but also when they are miles apart. In many cases, this energy is never acted upon in a physical sense. 

In fact, the main purpose of this connection is said to be to trigger an awakening of the Kundalini in each other; in other words to cause a spiritual awakening. 

My current understanding is that the practice of ahimsa and satya for twin soul sexuality is for them to privately acknowledge to themselves that this connection exists (without any violence towards themselves or any unhealthy guilt or shame regarding this). And, the practice of brahmacharya for twin souls involves being sexually faithful to their chosen life partners as long as they remain in those relationships. 

Ultimately it is up to each spiritual seeker, including twin souls, to learn to manage their own Kundalini or sexual energy. It is up to each one of us to find a way to direct this sacred energy, given to us by the universe, upwards towards the higher energy centres or chakras for the sake of spiritual progress. 

And, as we do so, it helps to remember that this is a gradual process that can take much time and patience. And also, that sexual energy is a manifestation of the divine Kundalini-- in other words, it is a pure energy, the source of all creation and should be treated with the respect that is due to any other divine energy.

Om Sri Shaktyai Namah.

Om Sri Durgayai Namah.

Om Namo Narayanaya.

Hari Aum Tat Sat. 

Twin soul information-- stages, spiritual practice and life situations

 Hari Aum.

I'm afraid I am going to write another post on this tricky topic. (I sense some readers are a bit riled by this subject but please do not be offended-- kindly ignore this post if this is not to your taste.) This post is for the benefit of those on a twin flame journey; it is very unique and I would say impossible to understand unless one is going through this. 

I will henceforth only comment/reply to individuals regarding this topic whom I feel need some help or reassurance because they are on the same journey. It is not possible for me to defend/justify my experiences or actions to those who are having a completely different life experience from mine; we must be in another person's shoes to truly grasp the meaning of their experiences. 

There is no higher or lower life experience by the way; as we would all hopefully be aware, all experiences given to us by the universe are unique and tailor-made for our spiritual evolution. There is no competition or comparison with anyone else on the spiritual journey. We are all equal souls and are moving towards the same goal-- realisation of our true spiritual nature.

I just want to say that I will sometimes write posts on this topic as and when I see fit and leave them on here for periods of time that I feel are appropriate. If this subject does not apply to you, I would suggest that you please feel free to ignore and move on. On the other hand, if this does apply to your situation, then I hope that what I share is of some benefit to you. 

This twin flame journey is not at all an easy one, and I feel duty bound to share some of what I have learned about this subject in recent years (both from others who have gone through this and some of my own experiences) in case there are readers who are experiencing this.

So, let me begin.

A quick recap, twin souls or flames are individuals who are closely connected on a soul level (which manifests as a close connection on a mental/astral level which leads to specific experiences in both the waking and dream states that would not occur otherwise). 

In general, both souls find that, for the greater part of their journey, they have suffered at the hands of the other (this may be due to a variety of life situations). 

There are three main stages of the twin flame journey:

1. Meeting (initial attraction and then rejection for many reasons, specific to the individuals)

2. Separation (often very long; may be for years or a lifetime)

3. Re-connection (recognition of the connection and acceptance that it exists (how this manifests in external life depends upon the individual circumstances).

If you feel you are going through this journey, please do read about this topic in much more detail online. I am aiming to provide a brief summary here and some advice from a spiritual perspective.

It can feel very confusing and lonely on this journey. And, it helps to know someone personally who has been through a similar experience. It is also important to be aware that there are various people who offer to give twin souls 'readings' regarding their situation. I would advise being very wary and cautious about approaching such individuals; a very small proportion may be genuine, the majority are likely to be exploiting gullible individuals (I said the same thing in another post about Vedic astrologers). 

A great deal of common sense is needed in life, especially in spiritual life. As Sivananda says, 'Use your common sense always'. And, in his opinion (which I entirely agree with), the most commonsensical thing any soul can do, whether twin soul or not, is to approach God.

So my advice would be to approach God on this journey if you have not already done so. After all, that is what it is for. Take up a spiritual practice. Recognise that God is the goal, and all souls are on the same journey, including yourself and your twin soul and everybody else.

Personally, I would advise generally avoiding any psychics, tarot readers, self-proclaimed realised beings etc for readings to find answers on this journey (in exceptional cases, if there is a burning question and one is intuitively drawn to these, it may be appropriate. Using yogic divination methods such as the 'Ramagya prashna' may be considered).  

Mantra sadhana is a very great blessing on this path. It connects one to the Divine, shines a light upon one's path, shows one what to do and what not to, keeps one on the path of dharma, helps one navigate the most complicated situations in life, gives one strength when one needs it, guards one from lower energies both from within and without, protects and blesses one at every step. 

It helps one to understand what one's duties are and gives one the strength to perform them, and helps one to gradually tune oneself to the will of God, and makes one a true devotee of God. This is the only thing one can rely upon in life with absolute certainty. 

So, in summary, I would like to state that if a person feels that they are on a twin flame journey, then it is absolutely vital that they have a daily spiritual practice to help cope with its challenges. There is no other solution (no psychic/ tarot reading or anyone else will give one any guarantee of peace or sanity; only one's spiritual practice connecting one to God can do this). 

One must meditate daily (even if for only 10-15 minutes) and attempt to follow the yogic ethics to the best of one's ability. If one is sincere and does this, then one will experience the grace of God and Guru at every step.

The good news about this journey is that there is a lot of support available from God and Guru who remain with one throughout. One is compelled to seek their help on this journey.

My advice would be: trust yourself, trust your Guru (if you have one) and trust God (and, difficult though this may feel at times, trust your twin soul. More likely than not, they are in the same boat as you.) 

I would also like to share a valuable resource I have come across-- this is a lady known as Pradnya Pandit. She has written upon this subject extensively online (I have not yet met her but hope to connect with her at some stage to gain some more understanding). 

In her case, she and her twin soul were married to other people with whom they had children. It took them many years to understand their connection, and due to their circumstances, they chose to maintain a platonic friendship. 

Her twin soul left his body a couple of years ago but she continues to be a great help to many others stumbling in the dark on this journey of spiritual evolution. She writes on Quora and other online platforms and provides some counselling support and advice for those who feel they need this (she does not claim to be a psychic but provides advice based upon her own direct experiences related to this subject).

She has spoken about her experiences here and I would recommend listening to her story as it is very insightful: ('Portrait of a twin flame'): https://open.spotify.com/episode/7uy7aOvL3vIlH7AORmdm9U

She mentions that fear and guilt are major reasons that cause twin flames to run from the connection. Fear of rejection (or hurting their family/being condemned by society), and guilt regarding their present life situations (feeling unfaithful/disloyal to their existing partners and families). However, the reality is that this connection transcends any ordinary relationship paradigm. And it can take a long time to realise this. 

As Pradnya and others who have experienced this path say, "This is a 'connection' not a relationship". Some of these twin soul connections do indeed lead to relationships, and some do not; it all depends upon the unique circumstances of the individuals involved, their karma with other souls and ultimately, the will of God. The only determining factor with regard to the outcome is spiritual evolution (what will truly benefit the twins and everyone else involved in their lives).

There are thought to be three broad types of twin soul situations in the world:

1. Twin souls who are both single 

2. Twin souls who are both married to others (a soul mate or a 'karmic') or one is unmarried and the other is married/in a committed relationship. A number of these choose to maintain platonic friendships with each other, while some choose to leave their marriages and enter into a relationship with each other.

However, under no circumstances, do true twin flames ever engage in an extramarital physical relationship with the other (though there often is a strong and mutual physical attraction); a mutual emotional/mental bond is part of the twin flame connection and there is nothing they can do to break it (the existence of this can produce guilt and fear until they learn to accept it-- this is very difficult and occurs over a long time).

3. One twin soul is embodied (alive on Earth) and the other has sadly left the body (this is not an easy situation but the soul bond continues after the twin leaves the body; souls cannot die of course)

Finally, there are three typical states of consciousness for the twins with regard to each other during the course of their journey (and they may both be in the same or different state, or alternate between these):

1. Chasing: one soul chases after the other; they can later switch to running.

2. Running: one soul runs away from the other; they can switch to chasing; sometimes both may run.

Often when one soul chases, the other runs (for a variety of reasons ranging from fear to feeling overwhelmed. It can take a truly heroic effort not to run from this connection!).

3. Acceptance of the connection with no unhealthy desire to either run from or chase after it (one is fully established in this state after much inner churning, spiritual practice and growth all of which takes a very long time, sometimes a whole lifetime or more). 

There is always a very strong desire to be connected with one's twin soul counterpart; no external circumstance/other relationships can ever take this desire away. There are strong, completely unexplained feelings of love between them that do not depend upon any external connection and persist despite their external circumstances and prolonged absences from each other's lives. 

So, I hope this provides a useful overview for those on the twin flame journey. What I would like to say as I conclude is that:

1. A twin soul cannot ever truly reject their counterpart; this is especially true once they recognise this connection for what it is. Regardless of any external running, the reality is that they always want to connect with their twin soul counterpart.

2. Fear and guilt are common on this twin soul journey (unfortunately these are often constant, unwanted companions on this challenging path). The only way to overcome these is sincere spiritual practice and the grace of God/Guru.

3. Spiritual evolution is the key purpose of this path. 

Om Namo Narayanaya.

May God and Guru bless all twin flames in existence and give them the strength required to walk the spiritual path.

Hari Aum Tat Sat.

Twin flames and the spiritual goal

 Hari Aum.

The topic of twin flames has been around for some time and I would like to share my views on this subject.

From a yogic perspective, we are all individual souls (jivas in Sanskrit) who are part of the Supreme Being (Paramatma). And we are always one with the Supreme, never truly separated. However, the individual soul experiences an illusion of separation from the Supreme, it experiences the illusion that it is matter not spirit. This illusion produces the experience of life in the material universe including that of human life. Life in the material universe is based on cycle of birth and death; it involves joy and suffering. Whereas life in the spiritual state is characterised by immortality, eternal peace, knowledge and bliss.

The human birth is said to the only one that gives the individual soul the opportunity to come of the illusion of separation from the Divine. The experience of human suffering generates feeling of disillusionment with worldly life and a strong yearning for everlasting peace. This leads to the soul starting upon the spiritual journey in search of this precious goal. One is prepared to undergo any amount of suffering on this journey, but one is consoled by the fact that at least this suffering is for a good cause, a higher cause, the state of permanent bliss. Whereas suffering on the material path only produces grief but no higher benefit. Thus, as spiritual seekers, we walk the spiritual path with determination, with conviction, that this is the right way.

On this journey, we must undergo many experiences while in the material realm. Life takes many strange twists and turns. Both on a global scale and in our individual lives, challenges emerge to test us, to strengthen us. If we stay on the spiritual path, we will be able to benefit and emerge stronger and purer. It is not easy but ultimately this is for our higher good even if it does not often seem that way at the time.

Sivananda and other gurus say that many karmas must be worked out to progress on the spiritual path. We need to pay off our spiritual debts to other beings, other souls. We need to undergo the results of past karmas, both positive and negative. Until the karmic account is cleared, there cannot be spiritual enlightenment. The yogi performs spiritual practices to endure and reduce past karmas, and tries his/her best to avoid creating new karma, particularly negative karma in the process. In this way, he/she steadily moves towards the spiritual goal.

According to some, the concept of twin flames fits into the spiritual journey. Twin flames are supposed to be two individual souls who have a specific connection. They are mirrors of each other. They are not soul mates (these are souls who are comfortably compatible with each other, and many twin flames are married to their soul mates as this can feel less stressful than being around each other). Unlike soul mates, twin flames are alike on a soul level, on an energetic level, even if they appear appear different externally. Thus they precisely mirror or reflect each other's positive and negative qualities. 

When they face each other, they are compelled to see that aspect of their own nature that they may not like to see, that they may prefer to avoid. This forces them to honestly look at themselves and come to terms with what exists within. Then there is usually a transformative drive to change for the better.

In the end, therefore, while the twin flame experience can feel intense, confusing and stressful at times, it ultimately leads to spiritual growth over time. Thus, these souls can benefit from their experience of encountering each other. Their relationship may be one of family or friends (they need not necessarily be of the opposite gender). 

This is quite a peculiar subject and much has been written about it by more knowledgeable and experienced authors. I only came across the subject relatively recently and was mulling over whether or not this fits into the yogic concept of existence. It appears that it does. The goal of the twin flame journey is the same as the goal of the yogis-- i.e. God-realisation. They are apparently meant to focus on working on themselves during their lifetimes and this is their primary duty (regardless of whether or not they have much contact with each other). 

Although I am far from an expert on this subject, based on some of my observations and possibly some experiences, I would say this phenomenon appears to be true. Swami Sivananda's disciple, Sivananda Radha, has made some reference to this in one of her books. 

The overall opinion of people who seem knowledgeable on this subject is that twin flames, like everybody else, should focus on their own spiritual development. Their life experiences may be challenging at times but they are meant to stay focussed on the spiritual goal and upon attaining God realisation.

Om Namo Narayanaya.

Hari Aum Tat Sat.

Note: June 2025

I would like to add an update to the article above based on further learning and experiences in recent years.

It is the view of many spiritualists that the universe made twin souls for a reason. Discovery of this reason is part of the twin soul path. 

However, given that some reason exists, they cannot have zero connection with other in the physical world (there cannot be indefinite separation). 

There is a mental-spiritual bond, but this cannot exist forever in a physical void—there needs to be some sort of physical presence in each other’s lives (no matter the form—this will depend upon the individual circumstances). 

Twin souls are destined to meet, separate, find themselves, recognise the connection with each other, and reunite. These are some of the key milestones in this journey. 

And, having reunited (in whatever way the universe decides), they need discover and fulfill the purpose for which this connection was created.

Reunion is an essential part of the twin soul journey and occurs at a time decided by the Divine (which creates a strong pull towards the counterpart). 

Many twin souls including myself feel a certain disgust at the universe for creating such a strong bond that cannot usually manifest as a conventional relationship (it feels like a complete waste of romantic/loving energy for all the twin soul pairs in separation!). However learning to accept the ways of the universe is a part of this journey and that seems to be what many twin souls are currently trying to do.

Hari Aum Tat Sat